MARRIAGE AND RELATIONSHIPS :PROPHET W MAGAYA | Beauty fades with age,Maturity increases with age and Wisdom increases with age and time.
13 Behold, I stand here by the well of water; and the daughters of the men of the city come out to draw water:
14 And let it come to pass, that the damsel to whom I shall say, Let down thy pitcher, I pray thee, that I may drink; and she shall say, Drink, and I will give thy camels drink also: let the same be she that thou hast appointed for thy servant Isaac; and thereby shall I know that thou hast shewed kindness unto my master.
15 And it came to pass, before he had done speaking, that, behold, Rebekah came out, who was born to Bethuel, son of Milcah, the wife of Nahor, Abraham’s brother, with her pitcher upon her shoulder.
16 And the damsel was very fair to look upon, a virgin, neither had any man known her: and she went down to the well, and filled her pitcher, and came up.
17 And the servant ran to meet her, and said, Let me, I pray thee, drink a little water of thy pitcher.
18 And she said, Drink, my lord: and she hasted, and let down her pitcher upon her hand, and gave him drink.
19 And when she had done giving him drink, she said, I will draw water for thy camels also, until they have done drinking.
Many people are getting into marriage for the wrong reasons wrong motive or the wrong person which is the main reason why many people who are married want out. People are in love with each other for wrong reasons. Many are in love because of feelings which fade away.It has been proven that men’s love dwindles with time whilst a woman’s love increases but it is not a justification.
Isaac had matured and his servants were sent out to search for a wife for him. In that day and age they were marrying their relatives.The servants were careful in selecting a wife for him. He did not do it for himself but his relatives did. A marriage is a union of two families not two people. Most marriages that fail fail because of relatives. God chose a wife for Isaac and He did so through a simple test. A camel drinks about 20 litres of water at one go and the test was to find someone who could draw water for all their camels as it was a way to test her patience. Our biggest problem today is that we are in love with the appearancenot the inner person.
A wife was chosen for Isaac without him having seen her prior because they allowed God to choose. The motive behind “I love you” is very important; we have a problem in which we major the minor.
Beauty fades with age whilst maturity increases with age and wisdom increases with age and time. You are attracted by something that will go down not something that increases. When the servants were looking for a wife they looked for the things that grow and the one God had chosen. If you want an everlasting relationship then seek the voice of God first before you commit yourself. When you get married you will spend most of your life with them hence you need to settle for the best, second is not an option. You marry for your family not only for you.
When people speak negatively about your wife or husband it will get into your head and affect you. You should always know that you do not live in a vacuum so never lie to yourself that it is all about you because it is not. You need your family’s approval before you settle or else you will fight daily when you have already settled.
Marriage is a family issue. You should not commit unless and until your family approves of your partner. Your marriage has everything to do with your parents and you have to use wisdom to allow them to accept the one you love. If your spouse has to change they have to change now before you commit. When you marry, his family should be able to stand with you in case of a problem not point fingers at you. When you marry you need to marry your future. People change and when you say “I love you too” you are saying that you are ready for the changes. In life some people must fight for your back without you having asked them to and without your knowledge. If you marry against your family’s will then it will cause problems in the future.
When you go to your inlaws you must dress up in a way in which they will accept. You even change the way you dress up and do your make up so that they can accept you. Marriage is a life time covenant. Never marry a man without a vision because we marry for our tommorrow. Look at how far he can go not where he is now. A man must have a vision never make a mistake of marrying a person who has no hope for tomorrow. Times are changing so fast you cannot afford to be with a person with no vision. If there is no vision you will perish.
Men, never marry a woman who is always hungry. You should be able to move around with her and she should not be ever thirsty or hungry because when you fail to provide someone else will. A proper woman should be able to see the good not only the bad in you. God must give you a person who can pick one good thing out of a 100 wrong things. That person should be able to glorify the good in you.
If someone does not see any good in you they will destroy your vision. If that is lacking and surrounded by people who pull you down then they will destroy your vision. If a woman falls for material things then they are not marriage material.
A person maybe good but not good for you. You can be in a relationship but with the wrong person. When you are in a relationship you should see what the other person sees and feels. If he is fired from work will he be able to do something meaningful with his life? You need to take note of these points and start to see areas you need to change. It is very possible for one to change for the better after hearing the teaching.
If you stop dreaming then you stop harvesting. Never surround yourself with people who pull you down but instead those who push you up. Our problem in life is that we do not want to admit when we are wrong. You need to correct yourself now not tommorrow.